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I found a letter I wrote to my abusive X before the divorce…. Have you ever wondered how abused people think?

The quoted letter was written to my X during the last three years of our “marriage”. In this post, I’m responding to myself in the past, correcting a few of those old perspectives. I wonder what I’ll think of it after a few more years of healing?This might be helpful to you or someone you … Continue reading

To be honest, I’m not one for labels these days — Accepting “feminism” as part of me.

To be honest, I’m not one for labels these days. Even those I apply to myself are held loosely because I’ve realized that, while I am very like many people in so many ways, I am always, always somehow different as well. And for obvious reasons a label will blind others to that fact. I know how … Continue reading

How I left him and the church left me.

Pride is neither the ability to see what others wish you hadn’t noticed, nor is it refusing to lie about your beliefs when others demand it of you. I was done with pretending to agree with things I had long considered to be supposition. I wanted to test what I understood to be true by … Continue reading

When it is unimaginable to be yourself … pretend.

When I realized how much religious pressure and brainwashing I’d gone through growing up, I had to test a lot of assumptions. One … am I really straight? Now, I assume I’d have noticed if I were lesbian … but it was possible I might be bi without letting myself notice. It is with great interest … Continue reading

My abusive relationship was typical. When our culture denies the abused.

“How could I have let him do that to me! I didn’t understand anything I know now– that I’d been groomed basically my entire life for an abusive relationship by complementarianism and biblical patriarchy.” – Samantha Field Read the whole story: my abusive relationship was typical | Defeating the Dragons.

Why I Don’t Believe in “Normal”

This: “I DO NOT BELIEVE IN NORMAL. And I want us all to be set free from the relentless pursuit of it. Because, when you’re gunning for normal I think really you’re gunning for one of two things. “One. Perfect. Which isn’t. And it isn’t ever going to be. No matter how much stuff you … Continue reading

Do Ya’ll Want To Know The Truth?

“HUG A VICTIM INSTEAD OF A DAMN TREE.” Have you been a reluctant witness to emotional abuse or violence? In spite of an abundance of witnesses, justice isn’t always served, and your voice could make all the difference. Read one survivor’s story of a failed support system. via Do Ya’ll Want To Know The Truth?.

Everyday sexism: the tale of two boys

“the common courtesy we women are acculturated to show everyone should be something we ought to be able to expect to receive in return.” via Everyday sexism: the tale of two boys | Wine and Marble.

Why purity culture doesn’t teach consent. part two

“To me, the biggest reason why it’s important to teach consent and sexual agency is so that people of all genders can recognize the difference between consensual sex acts and sexual assault or rape. I had no clue for almost three years that I had been raped because I believed in the myths that purity … Continue reading

patterns of abuse

“To someone living during Hitler’s regime, it is quite possible that sending people to the concentration camps was seen as a necessary evil– perhaps, to some, even a good thing. To us, that seems insane. How could anyone have possibly seen the concentration camps in those ways? “It could happen– in the same way that … Continue reading

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