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Mere Dreamer

I verbalize my witness of the nightmare of abuse permeating culture, and though I'm a mere dreamer, I choose to highlight hope.
Mere Dreamer has written 51 posts for This is Important

A World Without Consent — Growing Up Goddy — Medium

Quote – “I had male and female friends who, though conflicted about their own sexual volition, wanted to have sex and were happy when it happened, even though they had not consented and in some cases protested.” I finally see the piece of the puzzle I’ve been missing all this time. When I was a … Continue reading

I found a letter I wrote to my abusive X before the divorce…. Have you ever wondered how abused people think?

The quoted letter was written to my X during the last three years of our “marriage”. In this post, I’m responding to myself in the past, correcting a few of those old perspectives. I wonder what I’ll think of it after a few more years of healing?This might be helpful to you or someone you … Continue reading

Modesty, Nudity, and My Dangerous Body – Fear or fear not? that is the question

I was chatting with an artist friend today about nakedness and my response to seeing it, comparing the sight of feminine nudity to that of male nudity, even the non-erotic sort that is preferable to me either way. A nagging sensation that has been bothering me for quite some time finally coalesced enough to really see … Continue reading

#YesAllWomen are hoping for transformed culture

I married my rapist and everyone was happy about it, because that is how blind culture can be. I believed that his claim of loving me meant he couldn’t possibly rape me; I was supposed to love him no matter what. I had been taught that men can’t help “it” and that it was my responsibility to stop him. … Continue reading

Favorite quotes from: Why fundamentalism is not the true expression of religion.

“The truest religion is the full spectrum of living colour.” “Fundamentalism at least in its extreme form is the most vocal and indeed violent form of belief, precisely because it is the weakest, least secure and least mature. It shouts and fights to defend its viewpoints because it must; for to accept that it might … Continue reading

Are you vulnerable to manipulation? When relational predators turn strength into weakness.

Relational predators have an innate skill for turning strengths into weaknesses. Remember, just because who you are can be used against you doesn’t mean you are worthless. It just means you’re with someone who doesn’t know how to appreciate your value. And it’s important to understand, especially when dealing with predators, that every element of ones identity can appear as both a weakness … Continue reading

Hearing the heart from which you speak …

It wasn’t until I heard myself, the part of me that held its breath and hid away behind clenched teeth, that I began to learn who I was and how I had been controlled. What I wanted wasn’t always what I thought I was looking for. My hopes weren’t always from the soul. Too often … Continue reading

There are people in this world who leave a rich legacy of kindness.

When my kids were growing up, Mr. Rogers was a nice guy on TV. I enjoyed the times we watched his show, because it didn’t grate on my nerves like some of them. It is only recently that I have begun to encounter further insight to who he was as a person. (Usually I don’t want … Continue reading

To be honest, I’m not one for labels these days — Accepting “feminism” as part of me.

To be honest, I’m not one for labels these days. Even those I apply to myself are held loosely because I’ve realized that, while I am very like many people in so many ways, I am always, always somehow different as well. And for obvious reasons a label will blind others to that fact. I know how … Continue reading

Who am I?

I ask myself, “Who am I?” –impossible question! I wander, awaiting the answer that will crystallize existence and freeze it into a form that I can keep in my pocket and know completely. How large is my pocket? – Mere Dreamer Read the rest at Love ≠ Love: Who am I?.

Spiritual Sounding Board

Finding resolve amidst the dissonance of "churchianity"

The Evangelical Liberal

Reclaiming and re-imagining faith: moving from black and white to colour

Avalanche of the soul

Escaping and surviving abusive relationships

Let Me Reach with Kim Saeed

Healing from Narcissistic Abuse | No Contact | Emotional Healing

SociopathHell.Com

A Healing & Informative Site About Narcissistic Sociopaths

Circle of Meditation

breathe in... breathe out... everything is okay

Teela Hart

Surviving Domestic Violence

7 free

A world view

Leaving Fundamentalism

Examining Christian Fundamentalism in the UK

Dappled Things

I find it shelter to speak to you

More Than Two

Franklin Veaux's polyamory site

The Human Impulse

Thoughts on living by just being authentically you - that is the driving impulse of humanity...

Thoroughly Christian Divorce

One woman's fight to be free at last

Christian on the front line

Just a Christian guy trying to do the best he can with what he has

A Boy and Her Dog

Traversing the Border between Butch and Transgender

Jesus Without Baggage

For those attracted to Jesus but not to the baggage often attached to his message.

A Cry For Justice

Awakening the Evangelical Church to Domestic Violence and Abuse in its Midst

Hope Wears Heels

Journeying out of abuse with Hope and high heels.

Intentional Geek

Eccentric Devotion On Purpose