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There are people in this world who leave a rich legacy of kindness.

When my kids were growing up, Mr. Rogers was a nice guy on TV. I enjoyed the times we watched his show, because it didn’t grate on my nerves like some of them. It is only recently that I have begun to encounter further insight to who he was as a person. (Usually I don’t want … Continue reading

To be honest, I’m not one for labels these days — Accepting “feminism” as part of me.

To be honest, I’m not one for labels these days. Even those I apply to myself are held loosely because I’ve realized that, while I am very like many people in so many ways, I am always, always somehow different as well. And for obvious reasons a label will blind others to that fact. I know how … Continue reading

Who am I?

I ask myself, “Who am I?” –impossible question! I wander, awaiting the answer that will crystallize existence and freeze it into a form that I can keep in my pocket and know completely. How large is my pocket? – Mere Dreamer Read the rest at Love ≠ Love: Who am I?.

How to Resist Mind Control – because it’s everywhere

A distant relative is slipping into a cult … or maybe designing his own. All I know is the relational waves are so fierce they’ve reached my little haven. The cult I grew up in … and the cult I attended for all those years before they evicted me both had a better facade. I am curious … Continue reading

How the church presents God – an honest conversation in Wonderland

“I guess … I can’t imagine a God who is big enough to keep everything running, and who promises it will turn out good, being out maneuvered. So … that presence is there even in the people who don’t have … an obvious light. How can I say it … it drips through even the … Continue reading

IR: Sex, Divorce, and Good Christian Kids … A fresh perspective.

To be honest, sex scares me. First I grew up within a twisted religious structure that caused me to worry when my father hugged me, because “All men think that way. They can’t help it.” And then I jumped right into a marriage based on rape and control, (thinking it was love) because “All men think that … Continue reading

I wasn’t going to be me, but that didn’t work out so well.

There is something about a framework of walls that makes a lot of people-of-faith comfortable, as if they are where they’re supposed to be. But that comfort seems so deceptive to me now that I’ve been evicted. Back when I was inside those walls, I wasn’t developing or growing much. If anything, the teachings I … Continue reading

Some calm suggestions for Christian parents of atheist or agnostic children.

I avoid talking about faith with my parents now, because my view of God makes them fearful. I’ve gone from being “practically a saint” in their eyes to someone whose salvation they just might have to question if I go too far … and all because I don’t buy into the church approach to viewing God … Continue reading

How I left him and the church left me.

Pride is neither the ability to see what others wish you hadn’t noticed, nor is it refusing to lie about your beliefs when others demand it of you. I was done with pretending to agree with things I had long considered to be supposition. I wanted to test what I understood to be true by … Continue reading

When it is unimaginable to be yourself … pretend.

When I realized how much religious pressure and brainwashing I’d gone through growing up, I had to test a lot of assumptions. One … am I really straight? Now, I assume I’d have noticed if I were lesbian … but it was possible I might be bi without letting myself notice. It is with great interest … Continue reading

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